“(…) “You can’t do that,” my parents told me. (…)
If my parents, friends, colleagues, partners and others only knew the number of times I’ve disobeyed them (but always following the rule: do no harm). Maybe one day I can be totally honest without boundaries. That day the ambient stench of obedience will no longer be in my home. I’ll breathe deeply and know that I’m alive.”
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“If you have to serve chili to 1,000 people, holding back just one bean from each person means you end up with a tidy savings, and almost no one is going to notice.
If you run a call center and hire people who make a dollar less an hour, who are less supported, or less trained, or less caring, the impact on each interaction will probably seem pretty small. Of course, if you have a thousand operators, you just saved a lot of money.
And, if you make cars and you figure out how to replace a bolt with a slightly less resilient one, very few drivers will notice, and if you make 200,000 cars a year, that might be enough to pay your entire salary.
You’ve already guessed the problem.
Some people will notice that the portions are a little skimpy. Some customers will be annoyed enough to switch to another company. And some people are going to die.
When we add up lots of little compromises, we get to celebrate the big win. But overlooked are the unknown costs over time, the erosion in brand, the loss in quality, the subtraction from something that took years to add up.
In a competitive environment, the key question is: What would happen if we did a little better?
Organizations that add just a little bit every day always defeat those that are in the subtraction business.”
… Seth Godin
“What do you desire? What makes you itch? What sort of a situation would you like?
Let’s suppose, I do this often in vocational guidance of students, they come to me and say, well, “we’re getting out of college and we have the faintest idea what we want to do”. So I always ask the question, “what would you like to do if money were no object? How would you really enjoy spending your life?”
Well, it’s so amazing as a result of our kind of educational system, crowds of students say well, we’d like to be painters, we’d like to be poets, we’d like to be writers, but as everybody knows you can’t earn any money that way. Or another person says well, I’d like to live an out-of-doors life and ride horses. I said you want to teach in a riding school? Let’s go through with it. What do you want to do? When we finally got down to something, which the individual says he really wants to do, I will say to him, you do that and forget the money, because, if you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing, which is stupid. Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing than a long life spent in a miserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is, you can eventually turn it – you could eventually become a master of it. It’s the only way to become a master of something, to be really with it. And then you’ll be able to get a good fee for whatever it is. So don’t worry too much. That’s everybody is – somebody is interested in everything, anything you can be interested in, you will find others will. But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like, in order to go on spending things you don’t like, doing things you don’t like and to teach our children to follow in the same track. See what we are doing, is we’re bringing up children and educating to live the same sort of lifes we are living. In order that they may justify themselves and find satisfaction in life by bringing up their children to bring up their children to do the same thing, so it’s all retch, and no vomit it never gets there.
And so, therefore, it’s so important to consider this question: What do I desire?”
“Os dias zangados são dias de amor. Ninguém se zanga por desamor. O amor sobrevive e continua, como vingança.”
Miguel Esteves Cardoso em “Como é Linda a Puta da Vida”
“Ser optimista sai caro. Custa muito: tanto no esforço de virarmos as coisas que vimos no sentido da esperança, como na rajada de dor que provocamos, acreditando que, apesar de tudo, tivemos sorte.
Ser optimista é passar por estúpido. Não é inteligente porque os resultados esperados (não apenas desejados, mas esperados) são, pelo menos 90 por cento das vezes, piores do que se esperava.
Quanto maior o número de tristezas que acontecem ou nos acontecem – que doem e deixam marca -, mais difícil é manter a visão optimista que, mal por mal, tudo acabará por se resolver.
Quanto mais velhos ficamos e mais desilusões acumulamos, a tendência preguiçosa é concluir que são as esperanças que nos fazem sofrer.
No entanto pode ser ainda mais estúpido julgar as esperanças e ilusões conforme o resultado delas. Vamos supor que eu passo 50 anos a acreditar que um dia reconhecerão o meu talento para escrever ou pintar. Quando perfaço 50 anos, descubro, através de outros e da minha reacção ao que acham, que não tenho jeito nenhum. Chego à conclusão que perdi meio século a dedicar-me erradamente. E fico, de repente, infeliz. E esclarecido. Sou uma merda.
Entretanto, parece que me esqueço da felicidade e da segurança durante os 40 e tal anos em que era optimista e convencido.
Se calhar, o resultado ou a opinião dos outros é apenas um elemento, ocasional e aleatório, do que valemos e de quem somos e do que vale o que escolhemos fazer.
Miguel Esteves Cardoso em “Como é Linda a Puta da Vida”